heres my story. I was 21 married to the only man id ever been in a serious relationship with, and had an almost 3 year old daughter with him. Our marriage was failing, after many attempts at trying. I tried to leave but its hard because i have no education no money no job ect. I went about it the wrong way and had an affair on my husband with my cousin. who was cheating on his gf with me as well.
wasnt something we were expecting but we fell in love. I left my husband, and before he could leave his gf she left him, with alot of rent. that he couldnt afford on his own so he asked me to move down. I was going through so much at the time i wasnt thinking straight, i moved in with him and when his gf that had just left him cut off all ties with him he broke down, would cry became depressed wouldnt eat lost weight wouldnt sleep.
I was going through so much on my end but i felt i had to be there for him so i kept my problems inside. I felt bad that he was so upset over his ex. on one hand i was like ';poor guy'; and on the other hand i was like ';wtf im supposed to be ur gf and your crying over someone else'; not over her obviously. after one night of leaving me at home to go hang out with her i broke down. It wasnt only her but he talked to all his serious ex gfs. all the time. he didnt have guy friends only ex gfs. so i told him that i didnt like that he was going to hang out with her even after i asked him not to and he said ';well dont ask me to stop talking to them cuz u know ill say no'; i decided i had to leave. hes really good with his words and i kno would try and convice me not to leave so i left while he was outta town for the weekend. he begged me to come back but i said i needed to think and he said ';no its yes or no'; so i said no not right now. about a week later he got really depressed i think its because hes never had a gf break up with him and he just had 2 do it with in 4 months. i asked him about a week later it he would take me back cuz i missed him and i just needed to think straight, (you have to understand im going through a divorce)
he said no, that he likes being alone he hasnt been for a long time. But its ike a week! after some hurtful exchanges of words, we agreeed to be friends and family lol so i found him a new place to rent and told him that i would lend him money if he didnt have enough and id pay for his DD. but whenever i try to talk to him its like he doesnt give a ****. I still love him and want to be with him, he said before that i gave up on us, and i did and i feel like hes already moved on and gotten over me. and im still here upset. and it makes me think it he was just using me for emotional support, and half the rent because he just doesnt even care now, and after all that im STILL doing for him he cant give me the time of day. I know hes really good at hiding how he feels, but i find that if you are helpful and good he doesnt give a ****, but if your a ***** to him then he pursues you. What should i do? i still have hopes that he will want me back one day. am i just being a fool? help plzHow do you move on from someone?
How are you affording to give him rent money when you didn't even have a job?
I think it's time to put on your big girl panties, and get yourself your own place for you and your daughter. All that moving and turmoil's got to be hard on her. I know how hard it can be to try %26amp; date with a child, but I say leave the losers alone and take a break... If the RIGHT guy approaches YOU then go for it. But quick chasing guys that are just not that into you.How do you move on from someone?
messy, just need to use your brains n get away from the 2 guys. raise the kid with child support,
stop dreaming n getting into messy relationship n get an education. Without education n job, you will be in no control of your life, You will cause problems to yourself n your kid. Stop day dreaming, life is not about this cousin of yours...he obviously like his exgf n it was good they left him. you spend your time on this kind of nonsense, please start building a proper future.
wait. your dating/dated your cousin?
you have no job, but your helping him with his financial issues?
this is so messed up.
just leave him alone, and find a better guy who can take care of you and your child.
geez. grow up
Wow, this is some Jerry Springer stuff.
(1) Get out of both of these relationships.
(2) Get a job to support yourself.
(3) Go after child support
(4) Look into continuing your education.
(5) Don't look back.
You need to do what is right for you and your child. That should be your priority, not making these two losers happy. Focus on YOU and YOUR CHILD.
Friday, August 20, 2010
I don't recognize my best friend any more since she got married. I need your help!!?
ok. the thing is:
my best friend married a guy about a year ago.
No one could understand why she did that (neither could I). She met this guy, fell head over heels in love with him and married him right away.
We (her closest friends) knew her first marriage was a failure, but 2 years after she got divorced, she seemed completely over it. She has an excellent job (she earns quite a lot) and has a beautiful, sweet and intelligent 3-year-old daughter from that first marriage.
Then she met this idiot and married him. I mean鈥?I can't understand what's going on with her! I've always known her as a strong and determined woman I admired, but when she married him everything changed. The guy behaves like a dictator who bosses her around and controls every step she makes(he tries to boss and control everyone else as well by the way). Before they got married he immediately demanded her to get rid of the child or he wouldn't marry her. She did it. She gave her ex immediately full custody of the girl and barely saw her again since then because her husband doesn't want her to.
The guy is SO annoying! I think she is the only person in the world who can put up with him at all.
I can't understand why she is with that piece of trash (I am sorry for using such words). The man is ugly as the sin, he's probably the grossest person I've ever met, he stinks (no one can get close to him), doesn't have any education and he's really discussing and when it comes to hygiene he says that no hygiene at all is good because that makes you immune system stronger.
He's SO gross鈥?he is always talking about sex and, looks really discussing and has no manners at all, everywhere even when there are people around. He burps as loud as he can, (I heard him fart a few times as well) and talks about committing suicide all the time!
And and and鈥?lots of other things. He is always making problems and conflicts with everyone. It's the only thing he can do.
My best friend almost picked him up from the streets. When she met him he was miserable, was sick, was always moving from one place to another, was hungry鈥?br>
but I think if she wants to make any charity work, she doesn't have to take such people home with her, nor marry them as well. The guy never worked again. He says that since they are married, she has the obligation to give him money.
I never could understand why she married him! She once told me with a big smile on her face that he is great in bed.
She is been acting cold and distant since she met him. (The guy scares me. He's like a dictator who has to be obeyed at any costs)
Our relationship is not the same anymore. I miss her. I miss our friendship. How can I get her back?I don't recognize my best friend any more since she got married. I need your help!!?
first of all, the guy seems like a total jerk! but i think you should sit your friend down and have a serious talk, don't just tell her what all the terrible things you see in him... first ask her what she thinks when she see's him, ask her if she's really truely happy, and ask her if she's gonna miss her daughter.
and after that depending on her responce then explain to her that she really does derserve better, and the right guy is out there... but the man she married isn't.
but if she's truely happy, and she's in total and complete love with him... there's nothing you can do but just hope for the best and pray for her.I don't recognize my best friend any more since she got married. I need your help!!?
Sounds like your friend has lost the important things in her life and has given them up.This is not something anyone can understand,and one day she will wonder the same thing.It is a good thing that she gave the child to her ex as no telling what could have happened.You have tried to be a good friend and one day she will need you and your shoulder to cry a mountain of tears
Sounds like a situation I had with my best friend. Unfortunately you just have to wait it out and hope she comes to her senses. My bff didn't dump her kids with her ex, but she didn't say anything when her new husband was verbally abusive to them. Every time I pointed out something horrible about him, she would laugh it off. If you push too hard, then when she does leave him she won't return to being friends with you. She'll resent you. I just had to keep my mouth shut and be as supportive as possible, and when she finally came to her senses, I helped her pack.
Also, sounds like she needs serious therapy. He sounds controlling, maybe even abusive. Nothing you can do. She needs to wake up and get help for herself.
my best friend married a guy about a year ago.
No one could understand why she did that (neither could I). She met this guy, fell head over heels in love with him and married him right away.
We (her closest friends) knew her first marriage was a failure, but 2 years after she got divorced, she seemed completely over it. She has an excellent job (she earns quite a lot) and has a beautiful, sweet and intelligent 3-year-old daughter from that first marriage.
Then she met this idiot and married him. I mean鈥?I can't understand what's going on with her! I've always known her as a strong and determined woman I admired, but when she married him everything changed. The guy behaves like a dictator who bosses her around and controls every step she makes(he tries to boss and control everyone else as well by the way). Before they got married he immediately demanded her to get rid of the child or he wouldn't marry her. She did it. She gave her ex immediately full custody of the girl and barely saw her again since then because her husband doesn't want her to.
The guy is SO annoying! I think she is the only person in the world who can put up with him at all.
I can't understand why she is with that piece of trash (I am sorry for using such words). The man is ugly as the sin, he's probably the grossest person I've ever met, he stinks (no one can get close to him), doesn't have any education and he's really discussing and when it comes to hygiene he says that no hygiene at all is good because that makes you immune system stronger.
He's SO gross鈥?he is always talking about sex and, looks really discussing and has no manners at all, everywhere even when there are people around. He burps as loud as he can, (I heard him fart a few times as well) and talks about committing suicide all the time!
And and and鈥?lots of other things. He is always making problems and conflicts with everyone. It's the only thing he can do.
My best friend almost picked him up from the streets. When she met him he was miserable, was sick, was always moving from one place to another, was hungry鈥?br>
but I think if she wants to make any charity work, she doesn't have to take such people home with her, nor marry them as well. The guy never worked again. He says that since they are married, she has the obligation to give him money.
I never could understand why she married him! She once told me with a big smile on her face that he is great in bed.
She is been acting cold and distant since she met him. (The guy scares me. He's like a dictator who has to be obeyed at any costs)
Our relationship is not the same anymore. I miss her. I miss our friendship. How can I get her back?I don't recognize my best friend any more since she got married. I need your help!!?
first of all, the guy seems like a total jerk! but i think you should sit your friend down and have a serious talk, don't just tell her what all the terrible things you see in him... first ask her what she thinks when she see's him, ask her if she's really truely happy, and ask her if she's gonna miss her daughter.
and after that depending on her responce then explain to her that she really does derserve better, and the right guy is out there... but the man she married isn't.
but if she's truely happy, and she's in total and complete love with him... there's nothing you can do but just hope for the best and pray for her.I don't recognize my best friend any more since she got married. I need your help!!?
Sounds like your friend has lost the important things in her life and has given them up.This is not something anyone can understand,and one day she will wonder the same thing.It is a good thing that she gave the child to her ex as no telling what could have happened.You have tried to be a good friend and one day she will need you and your shoulder to cry a mountain of tears
Sounds like a situation I had with my best friend. Unfortunately you just have to wait it out and hope she comes to her senses. My bff didn't dump her kids with her ex, but she didn't say anything when her new husband was verbally abusive to them. Every time I pointed out something horrible about him, she would laugh it off. If you push too hard, then when she does leave him she won't return to being friends with you. She'll resent you. I just had to keep my mouth shut and be as supportive as possible, and when she finally came to her senses, I helped her pack.
Also, sounds like she needs serious therapy. He sounds controlling, maybe even abusive. Nothing you can do. She needs to wake up and get help for herself.
I really need to know the name of this song? it's dedicated to Speedy Loc -r.i.p.?
all of his friends,family,loved ones wrote this one rap for him, it's about 7 or 8 minutes. here are the lyrics that i can remember.
PLEASEE tell me if you know the name of the song.
when i put '...' i either dont know what they said, or cant remember.
if i put '?' i took my best guess at what they said, or i at least tried.
please help me out. (best answer spot will be garanteeed!!!!)
-----------------------
[some shoutouts from family starts off the song]
i miss you.
i wish you could come back.
i love you daddy.
i dont know why'd you have to go up there?
DADDY.? why'd you go?
i dedicated this song for the love and memory of my baby brother,
we didnt have the same father, wes was born with same mother.
we werent from the same hood not even the same city.
his albums were always positve mine were always shitty.
and i still remember the first day i was introduced to him,
it bugs me, it almost got ugly,they told me later that they were gonna rush me?
but we worked it out.now let me begin just to finish? and it bugs me that i had
a hommie that stars the limit??
without speedy low. everything he did was from the heart.
he rapped and reped hommies, got top 50 on the charts
a good father,four sons.to his wife, good husband.
always good brother and loved son to his mother.
speedy low repped the east bay 510 and the 14. ......and loved dacodo.
and it broke my heart, watching you breathe your last breath.
and it hurt the same way carring your last steps.
seems like everytime i get passed the bad times.pain follows pain like
kids in the lunch line.
but nevermind im tired of pain and sorrow i'd give up today just to see you tomorrow.
one more day,one more minute one more second.14 shots to the hommie that didnt make it
speedy low, not just a low? to me, you were what a good friend was supposed to be.
when i was down and out,and nothing was happening. you opened up the door when you
found out i was rappin .laced? me on the game kept me from rain.
stayed close to my creator..... it was the young love we had. father at 14.
before you pasted away you embrassed your whole dream...i'll remember you always,
drifting on your memory me and you like in the old days.
Speedy low in your honnor we keep it moving. where stars the limit.
in your honnor we keep prosusing. the dreams we shared. to kick down doors up
in this rap game. but since you left, things aint never been the same. and man i swear bro.
bro, this the hardest verse i've even wrote my eyes are getting blurry and i got
a not up in my throat. man its hard to cope. remembering times we shared.
doing things we uses to do my homes but now you arnt there.life isnt fair.
but how to explain that to your children, and now one memory of you, i wouldnt
sell that for a million. now i got the feeling, as i sit here dreaming casually.
i wanna tell you margrot things are getting better gradually.
Now im part of the family,got father that bugs...
and how it hurts,losing one of your closest. i'll never let your memory die
speedy i hope you know this.
why do they take,
take all the good away.
we'll never know.
until we gooo.
tell me if i, heard a thousand stories...[not doing this part]
i look back at the first day i met you and your bro
you showed me nothing but love when i walked through the door.
you took me in like i was family and i love you for that.
..........i would always have your back...the stars the limit..
i remember when you broke it all down for me..... we became a family,
and overcome any treaditgy but i never thought anything like this would ever happen.
see, through the hards times,you kept your heads up to the stars,
there aint no end to the amount of respect for you that i have in my heart.
but everything came crashing down when i got that phone call.
....my knees but all i could do was fall. for countless hours hommie we
stayed right by your bedside trying to hold back the pain and tears
that we felt inside.you were surrounded by your lovedones till your last breath.
and we gonna keep yo dream alive till our last breath. but now you know
we gotta keep it moving on, but everyday that passes man it seem like the
pain keeps growing strong. i find myself thingh bout your kids all the time,
and how there copping feelings in these trying times...
but no matter what hommie i know your right there by there side,
and as they grow there gonna know there daddy was one of a kindd.
why do they take,
take all the good away.
we'll never know.
until we gooo.
why do they take,
take all the good away.
we'll never know.
until we gooo.
first and formal i wantya to know i miss ya.[not doing this one either]
.....i would smash on anybody disrespecting you.
[some messages from all his friends,family, and loved oness]
wassup speedy bro,...neva had ****,... down on 9th street
and our hearts are still there,
rest in peace,from yo boy 'lil con?
rest in peaceI really need to know the name of this song? it's dedicated to Speedy Loc -r.i.p.?
R.I.P. Speedy Loc. I never heard that before sorry I can't help.I really need to know the name of this song? it's dedicated to Speedy Loc -r.i.p.?
No way in hell ima read all that.
PLEASEE tell me if you know the name of the song.
when i put '...' i either dont know what they said, or cant remember.
if i put '?' i took my best guess at what they said, or i at least tried.
please help me out. (best answer spot will be garanteeed!!!!)
-----------------------
[some shoutouts from family starts off the song]
i miss you.
i wish you could come back.
i love you daddy.
i dont know why'd you have to go up there?
DADDY.? why'd you go?
i dedicated this song for the love and memory of my baby brother,
we didnt have the same father, wes was born with same mother.
we werent from the same hood not even the same city.
his albums were always positve mine were always shitty.
and i still remember the first day i was introduced to him,
it bugs me, it almost got ugly,they told me later that they were gonna rush me?
but we worked it out.now let me begin just to finish? and it bugs me that i had
a hommie that stars the limit??
without speedy low. everything he did was from the heart.
he rapped and reped hommies, got top 50 on the charts
a good father,four sons.to his wife, good husband.
always good brother and loved son to his mother.
speedy low repped the east bay 510 and the 14. ......and loved dacodo.
and it broke my heart, watching you breathe your last breath.
and it hurt the same way carring your last steps.
seems like everytime i get passed the bad times.pain follows pain like
kids in the lunch line.
but nevermind im tired of pain and sorrow i'd give up today just to see you tomorrow.
one more day,one more minute one more second.14 shots to the hommie that didnt make it
speedy low, not just a low? to me, you were what a good friend was supposed to be.
when i was down and out,and nothing was happening. you opened up the door when you
found out i was rappin .laced? me on the game kept me from rain.
stayed close to my creator..... it was the young love we had. father at 14.
before you pasted away you embrassed your whole dream...i'll remember you always,
drifting on your memory me and you like in the old days.
Speedy low in your honnor we keep it moving. where stars the limit.
in your honnor we keep prosusing. the dreams we shared. to kick down doors up
in this rap game. but since you left, things aint never been the same. and man i swear bro.
bro, this the hardest verse i've even wrote my eyes are getting blurry and i got
a not up in my throat. man its hard to cope. remembering times we shared.
doing things we uses to do my homes but now you arnt there.life isnt fair.
but how to explain that to your children, and now one memory of you, i wouldnt
sell that for a million. now i got the feeling, as i sit here dreaming casually.
i wanna tell you margrot things are getting better gradually.
Now im part of the family,got father that bugs...
and how it hurts,losing one of your closest. i'll never let your memory die
speedy i hope you know this.
why do they take,
take all the good away.
we'll never know.
until we gooo.
tell me if i, heard a thousand stories...[not doing this part]
i look back at the first day i met you and your bro
you showed me nothing but love when i walked through the door.
you took me in like i was family and i love you for that.
..........i would always have your back...the stars the limit..
i remember when you broke it all down for me..... we became a family,
and overcome any treaditgy but i never thought anything like this would ever happen.
see, through the hards times,you kept your heads up to the stars,
there aint no end to the amount of respect for you that i have in my heart.
but everything came crashing down when i got that phone call.
....my knees but all i could do was fall. for countless hours hommie we
stayed right by your bedside trying to hold back the pain and tears
that we felt inside.you were surrounded by your lovedones till your last breath.
and we gonna keep yo dream alive till our last breath. but now you know
we gotta keep it moving on, but everyday that passes man it seem like the
pain keeps growing strong. i find myself thingh bout your kids all the time,
and how there copping feelings in these trying times...
but no matter what hommie i know your right there by there side,
and as they grow there gonna know there daddy was one of a kindd.
why do they take,
take all the good away.
we'll never know.
until we gooo.
why do they take,
take all the good away.
we'll never know.
until we gooo.
first and formal i wantya to know i miss ya.[not doing this one either]
.....i would smash on anybody disrespecting you.
[some messages from all his friends,family, and loved oness]
wassup speedy bro,...neva had ****,... down on 9th street
and our hearts are still there,
rest in peace,from yo boy 'lil con?
rest in peaceI really need to know the name of this song? it's dedicated to Speedy Loc -r.i.p.?
R.I.P. Speedy Loc. I never heard that before sorry I can't help.I really need to know the name of this song? it's dedicated to Speedy Loc -r.i.p.?
No way in hell ima read all that.
Are Firemen just brave men or brave ordinary men doing an extraordinary Job?
I reckon so, Cos they do what we cant, Everytime the siren goes these men and women put themselves in harms way to protect us
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Wednesday April 30, 04:35 PM
Trapped, injured firefighter put himself in survival mode
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A firefighter badly hurt in a coolstore explosion says he went into survival mode as he lay trapped in the inferno with half his face hanging off.
Brian Halford and Alvin Walker were caught in the April 5 blast which ripped through the Icepak Coolstore at Tamahere on the outskirts of Hamilton.
It fatally injured Derek Lovell and injured seven other firemen.
In his first public words about the incident, Mr Halford today said part of the building fell on top of him as he lay badly injured.
';My breathing was raspy, gurgly,'; he told a Hamilton fire station media conference with four of seven firefighters hurt on April 5.
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';I was losing my airway. I was going unconscious and at that point it was like, `calm down, sort your crap out and get on top of this sort of thing', so I pretty much went into a survival mode.
';I got my breathing under control, got my airway under control and thought, `right stay conscious. If you lose consciousness then you have pretty much had it'.';
Mr Halford told reporters he briefly thought he would die.
If it was not for the civilian heroes who dragged he and Mr Walker out of the burning building, they probably both would have died, he said.
Moments after the explosion he knew he was badly injured.
';My face was off from about the nose, the bottom of my eye. It was all just sitting on my shoulder.
';There was a lot of blood.
';The guys who found me thought I had no eyes and no face, so it would have been very horrific for them to see.
';They were having nightmares so they had to come and see me to get a little bit of closure for themselves.';
He said his civilian rescuers were the heroes.
';If they hadn't been there, particularly a couple of guys who don't want to be known to the media, we wouldn't be here.
';There were a lot of surgeons there at the time and doctors at Tamahere and if they hadn't been there, I wouldn't be here.';
Mr Halford met his civilian rescuers in hospital.
';What do you say? The only thanks they wanted was to see my face and to see me interact with my children.';
Before the blast he was a keen runner.
';I am not running now. If I were to, the face would probably fall off, but I am doing a lot of walking.';
Mr Walker, who had head injuries and broken ribs, said the incident had led to a far closer bond with the community and within the firefighting family.
He did not know how to say thank you to the people who rescued them.
';We need to get together and definitely buy them a beer. My wife gave them the biggest hug ever. Someone gave them their husband back.';
When he returned to the front line, he would face every day as it came.
';I am looking forward to getting back. That's what I love to do, help other people. That's why I joined the job,'; Mr Walker said.
He rated the pain level about eight out of 10, and said he had not properly grieved for Mr Lovell, who died from his injuries the night of the fire.
He was close to tears when he left hospital to go to Mr Lovell's funeral.
';The people who actually saved us and who had worked on us had formed a guard of honour for us.
';Really, we should have been doing that for them. Those are the real heroes, the people who worked on us and the people who carried on working and the people who rescued us.';
Adrian Brown, who was badly burnt on his hands and face, was released from hospital six days ago.
The response from the Morrinsville community where he lived had moved him.
Cameron Grylls returned to duty two days ago and said one of the biggest hurdles was leaving his family to go to work.
';It is hard to describe. It is something that I wasn't quite expecting to be that hard,'; Mr Grylls said.
Like Mr Walker, Dennis Wells had yet to accept Mr Lovell was dead.
';I probably won't until I get back to work. I was unconscious the whole time. I remember absolutely nothing until the next day.
';I remember them telling me about Derek and I couldn't accept it then. I still expect him to walk in the door and give me some flak.';
He had no second thoughts about getting out of his hospital bed to go to Mr Lovell's funeral.
';He was my mate, I had to, I had to. It was my last chance to say something.
';I can't stress how much we owe those people at Tamahere. If they hadn't had that gala day ... there would be at least another three dead firemen.
';We were so, so lucky. If something was going to go wrong it could not have gone wrong at a better place and at a better time.';
The most seriously hurt firefighter, Merv Neil, was still in a critical condition in the burns unit at Middlemore Hospital in Auckland.Are Firemen just brave men or brave ordinary men doing an extraordinary Job?
Fire fighters the world over are incredibly brave people. They can never predict what will happen on any given call, yet they go out and put their lives on the line for us!
It would be nice if we had Fire Fighters' and Police Officers' Day! They deserve to be recognized!Are Firemen just brave men or brave ordinary men doing an extraordinary Job?
Thanks for the BA! I Have talked to our Mayor about this idea, he said he would look into it. He says it is a long hard process, but I am game to keep at it!
They are brave!!
yes. and they're hot
They are putting their lives on the lines for out very existance. I don't know about you but I think that is one of the most nobel, honourable things anyone could do.
Good on you mates.
uhhh well i think it's pretty obvious that they're brave cuz ya know they put out enormous fires and stuff
i also think it's pretty obvious they're doing a job because yeah, they're working, they're getting paid, so yeah, they're doing a job
so yeah, after all of that really really complex analysis, i'm STILL NOT VERY SURE but i THINK it's safe to say that yeah, firefighters are brave dudes who have jobs.
I MIGHT BE WRONG THOUGH AAAAAGGGGGHHHHH
THE WORLD IS SO COMPLEX
Brave ordinary men doing an extraordinary job
at times we had to go into survival mode
we all carried a DSU ( distress signal unit ) a small alarm like a torch that gave of a right high note you only set it of if you were in real trouble %26amp; hopped for the best
Both, Brave %26amp; extraordinary!!!prom hair guy myspace
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Summary | Newstalk ZB | NZPA
Wednesday April 30, 04:35 PM
Trapped, injured firefighter put himself in survival mode
Enlarge image
A firefighter badly hurt in a coolstore explosion says he went into survival mode as he lay trapped in the inferno with half his face hanging off.
Brian Halford and Alvin Walker were caught in the April 5 blast which ripped through the Icepak Coolstore at Tamahere on the outskirts of Hamilton.
It fatally injured Derek Lovell and injured seven other firemen.
In his first public words about the incident, Mr Halford today said part of the building fell on top of him as he lay badly injured.
';My breathing was raspy, gurgly,'; he told a Hamilton fire station media conference with four of seven firefighters hurt on April 5.
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';I was losing my airway. I was going unconscious and at that point it was like, `calm down, sort your crap out and get on top of this sort of thing', so I pretty much went into a survival mode.
';I got my breathing under control, got my airway under control and thought, `right stay conscious. If you lose consciousness then you have pretty much had it'.';
Mr Halford told reporters he briefly thought he would die.
If it was not for the civilian heroes who dragged he and Mr Walker out of the burning building, they probably both would have died, he said.
Moments after the explosion he knew he was badly injured.
';My face was off from about the nose, the bottom of my eye. It was all just sitting on my shoulder.
';There was a lot of blood.
';The guys who found me thought I had no eyes and no face, so it would have been very horrific for them to see.
';They were having nightmares so they had to come and see me to get a little bit of closure for themselves.';
He said his civilian rescuers were the heroes.
';If they hadn't been there, particularly a couple of guys who don't want to be known to the media, we wouldn't be here.
';There were a lot of surgeons there at the time and doctors at Tamahere and if they hadn't been there, I wouldn't be here.';
Mr Halford met his civilian rescuers in hospital.
';What do you say? The only thanks they wanted was to see my face and to see me interact with my children.';
Before the blast he was a keen runner.
';I am not running now. If I were to, the face would probably fall off, but I am doing a lot of walking.';
Mr Walker, who had head injuries and broken ribs, said the incident had led to a far closer bond with the community and within the firefighting family.
He did not know how to say thank you to the people who rescued them.
';We need to get together and definitely buy them a beer. My wife gave them the biggest hug ever. Someone gave them their husband back.';
When he returned to the front line, he would face every day as it came.
';I am looking forward to getting back. That's what I love to do, help other people. That's why I joined the job,'; Mr Walker said.
He rated the pain level about eight out of 10, and said he had not properly grieved for Mr Lovell, who died from his injuries the night of the fire.
He was close to tears when he left hospital to go to Mr Lovell's funeral.
';The people who actually saved us and who had worked on us had formed a guard of honour for us.
';Really, we should have been doing that for them. Those are the real heroes, the people who worked on us and the people who carried on working and the people who rescued us.';
Adrian Brown, who was badly burnt on his hands and face, was released from hospital six days ago.
The response from the Morrinsville community where he lived had moved him.
Cameron Grylls returned to duty two days ago and said one of the biggest hurdles was leaving his family to go to work.
';It is hard to describe. It is something that I wasn't quite expecting to be that hard,'; Mr Grylls said.
Like Mr Walker, Dennis Wells had yet to accept Mr Lovell was dead.
';I probably won't until I get back to work. I was unconscious the whole time. I remember absolutely nothing until the next day.
';I remember them telling me about Derek and I couldn't accept it then. I still expect him to walk in the door and give me some flak.';
He had no second thoughts about getting out of his hospital bed to go to Mr Lovell's funeral.
';He was my mate, I had to, I had to. It was my last chance to say something.
';I can't stress how much we owe those people at Tamahere. If they hadn't had that gala day ... there would be at least another three dead firemen.
';We were so, so lucky. If something was going to go wrong it could not have gone wrong at a better place and at a better time.';
The most seriously hurt firefighter, Merv Neil, was still in a critical condition in the burns unit at Middlemore Hospital in Auckland.Are Firemen just brave men or brave ordinary men doing an extraordinary Job?
Fire fighters the world over are incredibly brave people. They can never predict what will happen on any given call, yet they go out and put their lives on the line for us!
It would be nice if we had Fire Fighters' and Police Officers' Day! They deserve to be recognized!Are Firemen just brave men or brave ordinary men doing an extraordinary Job?
Thanks for the BA! I Have talked to our Mayor about this idea, he said he would look into it. He says it is a long hard process, but I am game to keep at it!
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They are brave!!
yes. and they're hot
They are putting their lives on the lines for out very existance. I don't know about you but I think that is one of the most nobel, honourable things anyone could do.
Good on you mates.
uhhh well i think it's pretty obvious that they're brave cuz ya know they put out enormous fires and stuff
i also think it's pretty obvious they're doing a job because yeah, they're working, they're getting paid, so yeah, they're doing a job
so yeah, after all of that really really complex analysis, i'm STILL NOT VERY SURE but i THINK it's safe to say that yeah, firefighters are brave dudes who have jobs.
I MIGHT BE WRONG THOUGH AAAAAGGGGGHHHHH
THE WORLD IS SO COMPLEX
Brave ordinary men doing an extraordinary job
at times we had to go into survival mode
we all carried a DSU ( distress signal unit ) a small alarm like a torch that gave of a right high note you only set it of if you were in real trouble %26amp; hopped for the best
Both, Brave %26amp; extraordinary!!!
Is this a good MAID OF HONOR speech!?!?
Good Evening! For those of you who don't know me, I am Rachael, the very proud little sister of our glamorous Bride. I want to start by congratulating Grant and Jessica, and thanking all of you for coming here tonight.
I never knew Grant before he dated my sister, so I can't tell you horrible stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my sister!? I am very happy to welcome Grant into our family.
As far advice for my new brother in law: Grant, do not try to cuddle with her when she sleeps. I tried this, and every single night she would scream at me “Rachael, get off me!” But as soon as she fell back asleep, I would slide my leg back around her!
Jessica, you look absolutely gorgeous today. Two peas in a pod. Thick as thieves. Tight knit. Close as close can be. Of all the terms and clichés that describe our relationships, I think the word sister says it best. I couldn’t have asked for more. I try everyday, to be more like you. From you claiming that Grant wasn’t going to propose for many years, to me being jealous because of all the flowers Grant would send you ‘just because’. I always knew he was the one for you. When I got that phone call when you were in Nashville, I was overwhelmed with happiness for you. As you begin this new chapter in your life, I will still look to you for guidance because you helped me get this far. How blessed I am to have a big sister like you! Congratulations to my playmate, my mentor, my role model, my sister, and my best friend.
I've always heard that when two people get married, their nuptials have a positive effect on their community. Like someone dropping a pebble into still water, your love sends out ripples of happiness to everyone around u. It brings joy to those who have already said, “I do” as they fondly remember their wedding day. It brings hope to those who are still looking for that special someone.%26amp; it shows young children what they have to look forward to when they grow up. Two people brought together by the bonds of love %26amp; united in marriage are a powerful force. You bring happiness to those who are here to bear witness %26amp; those who couldn't attend, but carry you in their hearts. Emily Bronte once said: “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” Jessica %26amp; Grant, Your souls ARE the same, you make a perfect couple, you truly deserve each other and I know You WILL both have a long and happy life together.
Please raise your glass as I toast to my sister and her husband:
Here’s to love, laughter, and happily ever after! Cheers!Is this a good MAID OF HONOR speech!?!?
Eliminate the two paragraphs below (they are awful). The rest makes a very nice speech.
I never knew Grant before he dated my sister, so I can't tell you horrible stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my sister!? I am very happy to welcome Grant into our family.
As far advice for my new brother in law: Grant, do not try to cuddle with her when she sleeps. I tried this, and every single night she would scream at me “Rachael, get off me!” But as soon as she fell back asleep, I would slide my leg back around her!Is this a good MAID OF HONOR speech!?!?
get rid of the paragraph that reads '; as far as advice'; and the entire paragraph after the first sentence ';jessica you look gorgeous today'; get rid of the whole paragraph after that. keep the first paragraph, and the second, it is a little funny, and the one that starts, '; ive always heard';
the reason to get rid of the two i have indicated is because they are personal between you and your older sister and are far far far far too intimate and personal to be included in what is just to be a short toast to the couple.
this toast is not about you or you and your sister and your past. make that part of the toast at the reheasal dinner the night before if you must. but it is never ever ever correct or smart to say things like this at someones wedding reception, the other parts are fine. you are a good sister to care about this, and i think it is very very smart of you to be prepared with words to say, cause i have been to weddings where bestmen fumble thru toasts they did not bother to prepare and that does not reflect well on the bride and groom. good for you that you care so much!!!!!!
sniffle, sniffle, she is gonna love that.
i hope my sister works this hard for my day....
it only looks long but when its being said it wont be and i think i see the humor and respect in those last paragraphs.
sounds good to me!!
Great starters. So me I would say eliminate the fourth paragraph and you got a winner. I don't care for that part. Keep it light. Plus someone like me who doesn't know the family and hear the jealous part is not that great. Kind of Too Much Info and typical. That paragraph kinda talks too much about you sister and not enough about marriage like the following verse. Be sure to look both in the eyes as you talk and speak from your heart because I already felt it in your speech. Elimiate - ';Two peas in a pod. Thick as thieves. Tight knit. Close as close can be. Of all the terms and clichés that describe our relationships, I think the word sister says it best. I couldn’t have asked for more. I try everyday, to be more like you. From you claiming that Grant wasn’t going to propose for many years, to me being jealous because of all the flowers Grant would send you ‘just because’. I always knew he was the one for you. When I got that phone call when you were in Nashville, I was overwhelmed with happiness for you.
u should say something like i never knew grant before my sister so i can't tell u funny embarassing stories about him...instead of horrible.
and as far as the advice for grant it sounds a lil weird (no offense) maybe u should take that out.
I think it's great but just try to maybe cut it down a little. it seems a little long for a speech at a wedding. but if not it is a very sweet nice speech! GOOD LUCK!!
Why are you giving a speech???
Only the father of the bride (or the person who is paying for the wedding) is supposed to give a speech welcoming everyone to the wedding.
Then the best man is supposed to give a toast, a short toast, not a speech.
Maybe you can give your speech at the rehearsal dinner, but no one wants to listen to you when they ought to be dancing.
I love it. it made me teary eyed, however when you said that you couldnt tell horrible stories about Grant I would say I can't tell you funny and embaresing (im horrible at spelling?) about him. Good Luck!
It's very good.
One minor tweek. I would start by thanking the guests for attending and skip the ';for those that don't know me'; simply say, I'm Rachel, etc.
And also, I wouldn't say that you didn;t know him before he dated your sister, that's pretty much irrelevant and the following remark has a somewhat negative vibe.
Advising a newlywed couple not to cuddle is not apropiate, I know that you are trying to be funny, but it really isn't.
Shorten it up a little and you'll be fine.
Good luck
It is sweet, but a bit too long and detailed. I would leave out the last 2 paragraphs completely and take out the ';advice'; part, a few other little tweaks, and you have a fantastic speech....
Good Evening! I am Rachael, the very proud little sister of our glamorous Bride. I want to start by congratulating Grant and Jessica, and thanking all of you for coming here tonight.
I never knew Grant before he dated my sister, so I can't tell you any embarrasing stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my sister!? I am very happy to welcome Grant into our family.
Jessica, you look absolutely gorgeous today. Two peas in a pod. Thick as thieves. Tight knit. Close as close can be. Of all the terms and clichés that describe our relationships, I think the word sister says it best. I couldn’t have asked for more. I try everyday, to be more like you. From you claiming that Grant wasn’t going to propose for many years, to me being jealous because of all the flowers Grant would send you ‘just because’. I always knew he was the one for you. When I got that phone call when you were in Nashville, I was overwhelmed with happiness for you. As you begin this new chapter in your life, I will still look to you for guidance because you helped me get this far. How blessed I am to have a big sister like you! Congratulations to my playmate, my mentor, my role model, my sister, and my best friend.
Please raise your glass as I toast to my sister and her husband:
Here’s to love, laughter, and happily ever after! Cheers!
----Good luck Rachael!
I agree w/ luvtoanswer! TMI and too wordy... keep in mind the bestman gets to speak too and usually the Father of the Bride. People don't want to be hearing speechs for an hour!
I have to agree with a previous answerer...PLEASE drop those 2 paragraphs (2 %26amp; 3). They sound really awkward, and if I were at the reception, it would make me rather uncomfortable. Also, it does seem just a tad long, even with taking out those paragraphs. It does convey your feelings for her, but there's just a few too many chichés. The last part is really great--cute and fun and sweet! If I were you, I'd do it like this:
Good Evening! For those of you who don't know me, I am Rachael, the proud little sister of the Bride. I want to start by congratulating Grant and Jessica, and thanking all of you for coming here tonight.
Jessica, Of all the terms and clichés that describe our relationship--two peas in a pod, thick as thieves, tight knit--I think the word sister says it best. I couldn’t have asked for more. I try everyday, to be more like you. From the moment I heard you and Grant were engaged, I was overwhelmed with happiness for you because I know that he is the one for you. As you begin this new chapter in your life, I will still look to you for guidance because you helped me get this far. How blessed I am to have a big sister like you! Congratulations to my playmate, my role model, my sister, and my best friend.
Emily Bronte once said: “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” Jessica %26amp; Grant, Your souls ARE the same, you make a perfect couple, you truly deserve each other and I know You WILL both have a long and happy life together.
Please raise your glass as I toast to my sister and her husband:
Here’s to love, laughter, and happily ever after! Cheers!
I agree with Luv2Answer... eliminate paragraphs 2 %26amp; 3 (I never knew Grant.... and As far as advice....) and the rest is great!!!
Perfect except that instead of , ';I never knew Grant before he dated my sister, so I can't tell you horrible stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my sister!? I am very happy to welcome Grant into our family.
As far advice for my new brother in law: Grant, do not try to cuddle with her when she sleeps. I tried this, and every single night she would scream at me “Rachael, get off me!” But as soon as she fell back asleep, I would slide my leg back around her! ';, I would just say. ';I think that Jessica and Grant are so perfect for each other, and I am very happy to welcome Grant into our family.';
Very lengthy. You will bore the crowd.People will begin to drift away. Nice but just shorten it up a bit
I never knew Grant before he dated my sister, so I can't tell you horrible stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my sister!? I am very happy to welcome Grant into our family.
As far advice for my new brother in law: Grant, do not try to cuddle with her when she sleeps. I tried this, and every single night she would scream at me “Rachael, get off me!” But as soon as she fell back asleep, I would slide my leg back around her!
Jessica, you look absolutely gorgeous today. Two peas in a pod. Thick as thieves. Tight knit. Close as close can be. Of all the terms and clichés that describe our relationships, I think the word sister says it best. I couldn’t have asked for more. I try everyday, to be more like you. From you claiming that Grant wasn’t going to propose for many years, to me being jealous because of all the flowers Grant would send you ‘just because’. I always knew he was the one for you. When I got that phone call when you were in Nashville, I was overwhelmed with happiness for you. As you begin this new chapter in your life, I will still look to you for guidance because you helped me get this far. How blessed I am to have a big sister like you! Congratulations to my playmate, my mentor, my role model, my sister, and my best friend.
I've always heard that when two people get married, their nuptials have a positive effect on their community. Like someone dropping a pebble into still water, your love sends out ripples of happiness to everyone around u. It brings joy to those who have already said, “I do” as they fondly remember their wedding day. It brings hope to those who are still looking for that special someone.%26amp; it shows young children what they have to look forward to when they grow up. Two people brought together by the bonds of love %26amp; united in marriage are a powerful force. You bring happiness to those who are here to bear witness %26amp; those who couldn't attend, but carry you in their hearts. Emily Bronte once said: “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” Jessica %26amp; Grant, Your souls ARE the same, you make a perfect couple, you truly deserve each other and I know You WILL both have a long and happy life together.
Please raise your glass as I toast to my sister and her husband:
Here’s to love, laughter, and happily ever after! Cheers!Is this a good MAID OF HONOR speech!?!?
Eliminate the two paragraphs below (they are awful). The rest makes a very nice speech.
I never knew Grant before he dated my sister, so I can't tell you horrible stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my sister!? I am very happy to welcome Grant into our family.
As far advice for my new brother in law: Grant, do not try to cuddle with her when she sleeps. I tried this, and every single night she would scream at me “Rachael, get off me!” But as soon as she fell back asleep, I would slide my leg back around her!Is this a good MAID OF HONOR speech!?!?
get rid of the paragraph that reads '; as far as advice'; and the entire paragraph after the first sentence ';jessica you look gorgeous today'; get rid of the whole paragraph after that. keep the first paragraph, and the second, it is a little funny, and the one that starts, '; ive always heard';
the reason to get rid of the two i have indicated is because they are personal between you and your older sister and are far far far far too intimate and personal to be included in what is just to be a short toast to the couple.
this toast is not about you or you and your sister and your past. make that part of the toast at the reheasal dinner the night before if you must. but it is never ever ever correct or smart to say things like this at someones wedding reception, the other parts are fine. you are a good sister to care about this, and i think it is very very smart of you to be prepared with words to say, cause i have been to weddings where bestmen fumble thru toasts they did not bother to prepare and that does not reflect well on the bride and groom. good for you that you care so much!!!!!!
sniffle, sniffle, she is gonna love that.
i hope my sister works this hard for my day....
it only looks long but when its being said it wont be and i think i see the humor and respect in those last paragraphs.
sounds good to me!!
Great starters. So me I would say eliminate the fourth paragraph and you got a winner. I don't care for that part. Keep it light. Plus someone like me who doesn't know the family and hear the jealous part is not that great. Kind of Too Much Info and typical. That paragraph kinda talks too much about you sister and not enough about marriage like the following verse. Be sure to look both in the eyes as you talk and speak from your heart because I already felt it in your speech. Elimiate - ';Two peas in a pod. Thick as thieves. Tight knit. Close as close can be. Of all the terms and clichés that describe our relationships, I think the word sister says it best. I couldn’t have asked for more. I try everyday, to be more like you. From you claiming that Grant wasn’t going to propose for many years, to me being jealous because of all the flowers Grant would send you ‘just because’. I always knew he was the one for you. When I got that phone call when you were in Nashville, I was overwhelmed with happiness for you.
u should say something like i never knew grant before my sister so i can't tell u funny embarassing stories about him...instead of horrible.
and as far as the advice for grant it sounds a lil weird (no offense) maybe u should take that out.
I think it's great but just try to maybe cut it down a little. it seems a little long for a speech at a wedding. but if not it is a very sweet nice speech! GOOD LUCK!!
Why are you giving a speech???
Only the father of the bride (or the person who is paying for the wedding) is supposed to give a speech welcoming everyone to the wedding.
Then the best man is supposed to give a toast, a short toast, not a speech.
Maybe you can give your speech at the rehearsal dinner, but no one wants to listen to you when they ought to be dancing.
I love it. it made me teary eyed, however when you said that you couldnt tell horrible stories about Grant I would say I can't tell you funny and embaresing (im horrible at spelling?) about him. Good Luck!
It's very good.
One minor tweek. I would start by thanking the guests for attending and skip the ';for those that don't know me'; simply say, I'm Rachel, etc.
And also, I wouldn't say that you didn;t know him before he dated your sister, that's pretty much irrelevant and the following remark has a somewhat negative vibe.
Advising a newlywed couple not to cuddle is not apropiate, I know that you are trying to be funny, but it really isn't.
Shorten it up a little and you'll be fine.
Good luck
It is sweet, but a bit too long and detailed. I would leave out the last 2 paragraphs completely and take out the ';advice'; part, a few other little tweaks, and you have a fantastic speech....
Good Evening! I am Rachael, the very proud little sister of our glamorous Bride. I want to start by congratulating Grant and Jessica, and thanking all of you for coming here tonight.
I never knew Grant before he dated my sister, so I can't tell you any embarrasing stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my sister!? I am very happy to welcome Grant into our family.
Jessica, you look absolutely gorgeous today. Two peas in a pod. Thick as thieves. Tight knit. Close as close can be. Of all the terms and clichés that describe our relationships, I think the word sister says it best. I couldn’t have asked for more. I try everyday, to be more like you. From you claiming that Grant wasn’t going to propose for many years, to me being jealous because of all the flowers Grant would send you ‘just because’. I always knew he was the one for you. When I got that phone call when you were in Nashville, I was overwhelmed with happiness for you. As you begin this new chapter in your life, I will still look to you for guidance because you helped me get this far. How blessed I am to have a big sister like you! Congratulations to my playmate, my mentor, my role model, my sister, and my best friend.
Please raise your glass as I toast to my sister and her husband:
Here’s to love, laughter, and happily ever after! Cheers!
----Good luck Rachael!
I agree w/ luvtoanswer! TMI and too wordy... keep in mind the bestman gets to speak too and usually the Father of the Bride. People don't want to be hearing speechs for an hour!
I have to agree with a previous answerer...PLEASE drop those 2 paragraphs (2 %26amp; 3). They sound really awkward, and if I were at the reception, it would make me rather uncomfortable. Also, it does seem just a tad long, even with taking out those paragraphs. It does convey your feelings for her, but there's just a few too many chichés. The last part is really great--cute and fun and sweet! If I were you, I'd do it like this:
Good Evening! For those of you who don't know me, I am Rachael, the proud little sister of the Bride. I want to start by congratulating Grant and Jessica, and thanking all of you for coming here tonight.
Jessica, Of all the terms and clichés that describe our relationship--two peas in a pod, thick as thieves, tight knit--I think the word sister says it best. I couldn’t have asked for more. I try everyday, to be more like you. From the moment I heard you and Grant were engaged, I was overwhelmed with happiness for you because I know that he is the one for you. As you begin this new chapter in your life, I will still look to you for guidance because you helped me get this far. How blessed I am to have a big sister like you! Congratulations to my playmate, my role model, my sister, and my best friend.
Emily Bronte once said: “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” Jessica %26amp; Grant, Your souls ARE the same, you make a perfect couple, you truly deserve each other and I know You WILL both have a long and happy life together.
Please raise your glass as I toast to my sister and her husband:
Here’s to love, laughter, and happily ever after! Cheers!
I agree with Luv2Answer... eliminate paragraphs 2 %26amp; 3 (I never knew Grant.... and As far as advice....) and the rest is great!!!
Perfect except that instead of , ';I never knew Grant before he dated my sister, so I can't tell you horrible stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my sister!? I am very happy to welcome Grant into our family.
As far advice for my new brother in law: Grant, do not try to cuddle with her when she sleeps. I tried this, and every single night she would scream at me “Rachael, get off me!” But as soon as she fell back asleep, I would slide my leg back around her! ';, I would just say. ';I think that Jessica and Grant are so perfect for each other, and I am very happy to welcome Grant into our family.';
Very lengthy. You will bore the crowd.People will begin to drift away. Nice but just shorten it up a bit
How can another person come into your home and betray the people who try to help them?
I am having a hard time understanding and trying to come to terms with a person who came into my home and betrayed me and my husband.
My daughter and I met a man name Jeff Davis who is 39 years old, who claimed that he was a really nice guy with 2 beautiful children. He wanted to move up near us to be near our family so him and his 2 children could get a fresh start. Well, he did move up here and we found out that he started having sex with our 18 year old daughter who is mentally challenged. He know she is mentally challenged and took advantage of her situation. When he finally came clean about what he did, he claimed it was all his fault but still points his fingers at her. My daughter not understanding what is happening, trying to come to grips of what has been done to her puts out questions here trying to get help. Jeff answers her questions by telling her that he loves her and that he didn't do anything wrong. My daughter comes to me right away to let me know what he done. When we confront him with the issue he starts brings down notes that was wrote way before we knew what was going on and claiming she just gave them to him and that she is still trying to be with him. My daughter wouldn't of told me and her father he answered her questions if she was trying to still be with him. She is so confused because she can't understand why he keeps lying on her and about how things between them happened. She cared about him and thought that he was in love with her. She heard him tell me he didn't want to marry her because he was already in a bad relationship. But to her he claimed that he wanted her and wanted to be with her forever. Now she knows the truth that he wants his wife back even though she cheated on him and left him to be with another man and doesn't want him back. Sitting here cying to me telling me that he loves his wife and would take her back if she just would ask him back. Then in the same breathe tells me he has been sleeping with my daughter. When I explode and start screaming at him that she is like a 7 or 8 year old mentallity, and how could he do this. All he could do is say it was a mistake and he couldn't help himself.
I have tried to forgive this man, but he continues to do things to betray us all. So what I done was moved my daughters ex boyfriend in here with us so she could be distracted by Jeff. She just fell for the ex boyfriend like they have never been appart all these years. The ex wants to marry my daughter and he has the same mentallity as she does. His just isn't as bad as her's is. But he does have the same disability. We have told this 21 year old boy he has our permission to be with out daughter and we would except him as a son-in-law. We are willing to take care of both of them. We love them both dearly and they make a perfect couple.
Now in the same sense, we still have Jeff in our home and he has to watch her with her happy with another guy. I can see it is driving him crazy. At some sick point I am enjoying watching him hurt. I know I am not right for this, but I am getting some little bit of satisfaction out of watching his pain to get over mine!
We have not put Jeff and his 2 kids out because of his children. We don't want to see 2 children on the streets. But I am not seeing any other way to get over this pain, but to put him out. Even though I feel for his children, I hate to know he is still in my home. All I want is for him to leave. I just don't want his children to suffer for his mistakes! It just isn't fare to them. That is why he is still in our home! NO other reason!
How can a person move into your home and betray a family that has done nothing but be good to him and his kids? How can I get over all this pain I feel for my daughter? How do I get revenge on this man without looking like the bad guy? What should we do?
PLEASE Help us! We really need some good advise on what we could do to get over the pain we are in. Please give some good advise, what we should do. Even if it means putting them out to the streets Would I be wrong? Please I am so confused and I need someone who is on the outside of the box to tell me what I should do on the inside of the box. Am I too close to the inside to see what I should do?
Please, Please, Please help me and my family!How can another person come into your home and betray the people who try to help them?
well if i was u i would let hem know
that he should have to get out that's the way
i see it through my eys because if u really think about
it was wrong for him to have done that i have never meet
anybody like this before that would i understand that there
is a lot of pain if sombody really loved your daughter like they said they do they would have never done something like the way he did
that is not love ooh if you kick him out you can fell the pain rise off your chest and have to look over your shoulders worrying about stuff
like what would happen when I have my back turned wondering is every
thing going to be the some because u heve more than one daughter thinging wonderig will she full in the same trape and it would suck if the
second daughter whent through it because this man has a sick mind bereal if you really thing about it the way i see it if he really loved her
he wouldont have done that to her mind people that are in love would have never done what he h didHow can another person come into your home and betray the people who try to help them?
all good and bad happens in this same world. god looks after the deeds of people, but u stop playing with fire. fire should be put off, it should not be played with even if it gives satisfaction in any case as it is in your case.
Mother,
I just wanted to let you know don't put him out NOT for him but for those 2 kids they do mean they world to me I have gotton so close to these kids it will kill me to see them go. Yes I do love Jeff still but I am not in love with him anymore because he broke my heart when he told you that I was they biggest misstake of his life and I do know this I got someone who loves me for me not my body but me mom I love jose I have my old feelings back that I havent had sence we left him when I was a little girl No I am not ready for a marrige but I do know I want to spend my life with jose and I want your trust and dads trust to let me go down stairs with out you 2 think is he going to mess with me because he isn't anymore you got my word if he says anything out of line I will go stright to Jose, you, and dad I promise I don't want to set up in a room intill you jose or dad get up please mom just trust me again you got my word on this ok I love you so much do you even know how it feels to be in a room intill your mom or dad or even boyfriend gets up to be able to go dwn staris please mom let me get my life right with Jose again but I want my life back to the way it was before I started messing with jeff ok
File a police report, bring charges of statutory rape. Even if she is of legal age the court will look at her mental age. He is an unfit parent, if his ex wife doesn't want the kids you should foster them.
Call the cops and put him out. What he did cant be legal. He is hiding behind his kids since he knows you want to b nice to them. Kick him out, before its too late.
My daughter and I met a man name Jeff Davis who is 39 years old, who claimed that he was a really nice guy with 2 beautiful children. He wanted to move up near us to be near our family so him and his 2 children could get a fresh start. Well, he did move up here and we found out that he started having sex with our 18 year old daughter who is mentally challenged. He know she is mentally challenged and took advantage of her situation. When he finally came clean about what he did, he claimed it was all his fault but still points his fingers at her. My daughter not understanding what is happening, trying to come to grips of what has been done to her puts out questions here trying to get help. Jeff answers her questions by telling her that he loves her and that he didn't do anything wrong. My daughter comes to me right away to let me know what he done. When we confront him with the issue he starts brings down notes that was wrote way before we knew what was going on and claiming she just gave them to him and that she is still trying to be with him. My daughter wouldn't of told me and her father he answered her questions if she was trying to still be with him. She is so confused because she can't understand why he keeps lying on her and about how things between them happened. She cared about him and thought that he was in love with her. She heard him tell me he didn't want to marry her because he was already in a bad relationship. But to her he claimed that he wanted her and wanted to be with her forever. Now she knows the truth that he wants his wife back even though she cheated on him and left him to be with another man and doesn't want him back. Sitting here cying to me telling me that he loves his wife and would take her back if she just would ask him back. Then in the same breathe tells me he has been sleeping with my daughter. When I explode and start screaming at him that she is like a 7 or 8 year old mentallity, and how could he do this. All he could do is say it was a mistake and he couldn't help himself.
I have tried to forgive this man, but he continues to do things to betray us all. So what I done was moved my daughters ex boyfriend in here with us so she could be distracted by Jeff. She just fell for the ex boyfriend like they have never been appart all these years. The ex wants to marry my daughter and he has the same mentallity as she does. His just isn't as bad as her's is. But he does have the same disability. We have told this 21 year old boy he has our permission to be with out daughter and we would except him as a son-in-law. We are willing to take care of both of them. We love them both dearly and they make a perfect couple.
Now in the same sense, we still have Jeff in our home and he has to watch her with her happy with another guy. I can see it is driving him crazy. At some sick point I am enjoying watching him hurt. I know I am not right for this, but I am getting some little bit of satisfaction out of watching his pain to get over mine!
We have not put Jeff and his 2 kids out because of his children. We don't want to see 2 children on the streets. But I am not seeing any other way to get over this pain, but to put him out. Even though I feel for his children, I hate to know he is still in my home. All I want is for him to leave. I just don't want his children to suffer for his mistakes! It just isn't fare to them. That is why he is still in our home! NO other reason!
How can a person move into your home and betray a family that has done nothing but be good to him and his kids? How can I get over all this pain I feel for my daughter? How do I get revenge on this man without looking like the bad guy? What should we do?
PLEASE Help us! We really need some good advise on what we could do to get over the pain we are in. Please give some good advise, what we should do. Even if it means putting them out to the streets Would I be wrong? Please I am so confused and I need someone who is on the outside of the box to tell me what I should do on the inside of the box. Am I too close to the inside to see what I should do?
Please, Please, Please help me and my family!How can another person come into your home and betray the people who try to help them?
well if i was u i would let hem know
that he should have to get out that's the way
i see it through my eys because if u really think about
it was wrong for him to have done that i have never meet
anybody like this before that would i understand that there
is a lot of pain if sombody really loved your daughter like they said they do they would have never done something like the way he did
that is not love ooh if you kick him out you can fell the pain rise off your chest and have to look over your shoulders worrying about stuff
like what would happen when I have my back turned wondering is every
thing going to be the some because u heve more than one daughter thinging wonderig will she full in the same trape and it would suck if the
second daughter whent through it because this man has a sick mind bereal if you really thing about it the way i see it if he really loved her
he wouldont have done that to her mind people that are in love would have never done what he h didHow can another person come into your home and betray the people who try to help them?
all good and bad happens in this same world. god looks after the deeds of people, but u stop playing with fire. fire should be put off, it should not be played with even if it gives satisfaction in any case as it is in your case.
Mother,
I just wanted to let you know don't put him out NOT for him but for those 2 kids they do mean they world to me I have gotton so close to these kids it will kill me to see them go. Yes I do love Jeff still but I am not in love with him anymore because he broke my heart when he told you that I was they biggest misstake of his life and I do know this I got someone who loves me for me not my body but me mom I love jose I have my old feelings back that I havent had sence we left him when I was a little girl No I am not ready for a marrige but I do know I want to spend my life with jose and I want your trust and dads trust to let me go down stairs with out you 2 think is he going to mess with me because he isn't anymore you got my word if he says anything out of line I will go stright to Jose, you, and dad I promise I don't want to set up in a room intill you jose or dad get up please mom just trust me again you got my word on this ok I love you so much do you even know how it feels to be in a room intill your mom or dad or even boyfriend gets up to be able to go dwn staris please mom let me get my life right with Jose again but I want my life back to the way it was before I started messing with jeff ok
File a police report, bring charges of statutory rape. Even if she is of legal age the court will look at her mental age. He is an unfit parent, if his ex wife doesn't want the kids you should foster them.
Call the cops and put him out. What he did cant be legal. He is hiding behind his kids since he knows you want to b nice to them. Kick him out, before its too late.
I finally put an end to my affair with a married woman... (worth reading) how do I move on?)?
Many people here know my story... I will tell it one last time as the story has ended now...
I fell in love with a married woman... I trusted her and gave her the best part of myself... She would show me love (or so I thought) and with all things and time we spent I really thought that we would be together.
I am a single man and I believed everything she told me... Even her mother was convincing after she betrayed me by disappearing one night and lying about were she was... I ended it... really ended it... I told her not to bother me anymore and to go on with her life... I even spoke to her mother (she has been living at her mums place for about 6 months now), and explained that I care for her and that she should look out for her as I was not going to be around anymore... So that was it...
Two days later she came and found me and went off about how she can not live wit out me and that she was not going to let me go, and that she will fight to have me in her life and I must say even though I had broken it off... I really actually allowed myself to believe her... she was so convincing and so determined... she said that in the next two days she would separate completely and be with me because she can not live with out me... I know I shouldn't have believed her... But I did... I gave in again... only to find out two days later that she was doing this guy form her work... everyone a new about it and every one made a fool of her as they all realized that she was just a slut... A guy from the cafeteria that she worked showed me a message that she sent... it said ';I want to suck your dick';... same thing she wrote to me and god knows to how many other guys...
I was furious... and mostly because of the fact that she had the nerve to disturb my peace just to lie about everything again...
I went and found her husband... he fell to his knees when I told him... I explained to him that I could not allow her to destroy and mess around with everybody's life as if we are her toys... when I saw his reaction... I could not tell him the whole truth... I held a lot back as I felt sorry for him and I could not see him in so much pain... I even called her and told her what I told her husband so that she can save her marriage... I don't know why I did that... I helped her in a way... I don't know why...
I went this morning to her work and returned a precious gift she once gave me... I did not talk to her... but I had to give it back as it was a symbol of her betrayal and I wanted nothing to do with anything that she ever gave me... she shouted at me to take it back... but I walked out and left her there...
Was I wrong?
Does she care?
Should I have done something else?
What will happen next?
Will she bother me do you think?
In any case I understand that I am to blame... but I will never understand why there had to be so much deception...
Please tell me what you think about the story... which is actually my life... I gave the best part of myself to some one that through it in the garbage...
I am curious about how she sees all this... how she will react... and if she cares that I have really left her now... Please give me as much feed back as you can as I would like to read your opinions about the end of the story...
THANK YOU ALL...I finally put an end to my affair with a married woman... (worth reading) how do I move on?)?
Yea…look you are on the right path….
….but by talking to mothers and husbands and now returning gifts you are inflaming the situation. These are the “metaphorical handgrenades” I have spoken about previously. I can’t really see how you could have done too much more damage to her in extracting yourself from that relationship – and I am afraid that this will come back to haunt you. She will be DARK.
You would know better than I do how she is likely to react. Not to be one to harp on about the past – what is done is done – but in doing what you have done (rather than just slipping away and making yourself scarce and letting things go a little cold) you have to confront the possible repercussions of what you have done. Be prepared for anything. Sexual harassment allegations at work. Sexual assault allegations. Angry husbands coming after you. Other, new lovers, big brut guys angry and heart broken after hearing stories about the depraved things you (allegedly) did to her.
Most people here said “break it off”. But I am worried that you did it a little too aggressively and wounding.
You may have felt hurt by her. But you have to, for your own safety and comfort, let her down gently (even if she does not deserve it). You will have to be disciplined. Disciplined. If she wants a cup of coffee to chat it over – you may have to go (and keep it in your pants). Take back the gift. Give lip service to the fact that it was fun (that part does not sound like it will be too hard). If she wants to see you after hours – buy her off on the spot by agreeing to meet her – but then text an apology and promise to reschedule. Attend occasionally, but reschedule less and less. Apologise. Listen. Agree to give her another chance – but fail to come through from your side.
The current economic climate is tough. You cannot let things poison your work – it could be devastating for you professionally and financially. If she is erratic enough – if she is wild and unstable enough to consider “mutually assured destruction” – just how much damage could she do to the two of you at work?
Back off. See other people – go missing. but stop inflaming the woman with these tormenting acts. You risk turning all that passion into rage and vengeance. If you are both as wildly passionate as you have indicated – then reversing the polarity of it all could see this ending like an Aesop tragedy.I finally put an end to my affair with a married woman... (worth reading) how do I move on?)?
I thought that the question was long until I saw the answer.
Hats off to you both.
Tolstoy would be proud.
you're better off without this skank. you did the right thing!
i feel sad for you.. i do. but reality is.. you knew she was a women of deception from the beginning because you knew she was married and was deceiving her husband with you. i believe the characteristics of a person is declared through their actions. in this case she showed you clearly what she was made of.. at the start. a hard lesson but good on you for finding the courage to bring this to an end. she sounds completely 'heartless'. take care x
you work with her? i don't know how you're gonna get over her if you see her everyday. i know now's really not the time, but i'd consider getting a new job just to avoid the stress of seeing her.
that is, if you're really committed to saying no to this once and for all. and i doubt that you are.
you may have feelings for this woman, but cold hard fact is staring you in the face: she does this with men regularly. this wasn't a one time thing, it's a game.
why is she not wracked with guilt? why isn't she tortured with the choice she has to make between her husband, you, the other guy, and everyone from accounting? because she's a dog, a player. she gets a thrill out of it. she doesn't want to fix it, she just wants to add to the mess.
also buddy, if she texted you ';i want to suck your dick,'; that's kind of a tip-off that she's a major ho. her texting that multiple times is just driving the point home. no one should pity you if you go back to her and inevitably get burnt.
I fell in love with a married woman... I trusted her and gave her the best part of myself... She would show me love (or so I thought) and with all things and time we spent I really thought that we would be together.
I am a single man and I believed everything she told me... Even her mother was convincing after she betrayed me by disappearing one night and lying about were she was... I ended it... really ended it... I told her not to bother me anymore and to go on with her life... I even spoke to her mother (she has been living at her mums place for about 6 months now), and explained that I care for her and that she should look out for her as I was not going to be around anymore... So that was it...
Two days later she came and found me and went off about how she can not live wit out me and that she was not going to let me go, and that she will fight to have me in her life and I must say even though I had broken it off... I really actually allowed myself to believe her... she was so convincing and so determined... she said that in the next two days she would separate completely and be with me because she can not live with out me... I know I shouldn't have believed her... But I did... I gave in again... only to find out two days later that she was doing this guy form her work... everyone a new about it and every one made a fool of her as they all realized that she was just a slut... A guy from the cafeteria that she worked showed me a message that she sent... it said ';I want to suck your dick';... same thing she wrote to me and god knows to how many other guys...
I was furious... and mostly because of the fact that she had the nerve to disturb my peace just to lie about everything again...
I went and found her husband... he fell to his knees when I told him... I explained to him that I could not allow her to destroy and mess around with everybody's life as if we are her toys... when I saw his reaction... I could not tell him the whole truth... I held a lot back as I felt sorry for him and I could not see him in so much pain... I even called her and told her what I told her husband so that she can save her marriage... I don't know why I did that... I helped her in a way... I don't know why...
I went this morning to her work and returned a precious gift she once gave me... I did not talk to her... but I had to give it back as it was a symbol of her betrayal and I wanted nothing to do with anything that she ever gave me... she shouted at me to take it back... but I walked out and left her there...
Was I wrong?
Does she care?
Should I have done something else?
What will happen next?
Will she bother me do you think?
In any case I understand that I am to blame... but I will never understand why there had to be so much deception...
Please tell me what you think about the story... which is actually my life... I gave the best part of myself to some one that through it in the garbage...
I am curious about how she sees all this... how she will react... and if she cares that I have really left her now... Please give me as much feed back as you can as I would like to read your opinions about the end of the story...
THANK YOU ALL...I finally put an end to my affair with a married woman... (worth reading) how do I move on?)?
Yea…look you are on the right path….
….but by talking to mothers and husbands and now returning gifts you are inflaming the situation. These are the “metaphorical handgrenades” I have spoken about previously. I can’t really see how you could have done too much more damage to her in extracting yourself from that relationship – and I am afraid that this will come back to haunt you. She will be DARK.
You would know better than I do how she is likely to react. Not to be one to harp on about the past – what is done is done – but in doing what you have done (rather than just slipping away and making yourself scarce and letting things go a little cold) you have to confront the possible repercussions of what you have done. Be prepared for anything. Sexual harassment allegations at work. Sexual assault allegations. Angry husbands coming after you. Other, new lovers, big brut guys angry and heart broken after hearing stories about the depraved things you (allegedly) did to her.
Most people here said “break it off”. But I am worried that you did it a little too aggressively and wounding.
You may have felt hurt by her. But you have to, for your own safety and comfort, let her down gently (even if she does not deserve it). You will have to be disciplined. Disciplined. If she wants a cup of coffee to chat it over – you may have to go (and keep it in your pants). Take back the gift. Give lip service to the fact that it was fun (that part does not sound like it will be too hard). If she wants to see you after hours – buy her off on the spot by agreeing to meet her – but then text an apology and promise to reschedule. Attend occasionally, but reschedule less and less. Apologise. Listen. Agree to give her another chance – but fail to come through from your side.
The current economic climate is tough. You cannot let things poison your work – it could be devastating for you professionally and financially. If she is erratic enough – if she is wild and unstable enough to consider “mutually assured destruction” – just how much damage could she do to the two of you at work?
Back off. See other people – go missing. but stop inflaming the woman with these tormenting acts. You risk turning all that passion into rage and vengeance. If you are both as wildly passionate as you have indicated – then reversing the polarity of it all could see this ending like an Aesop tragedy.I finally put an end to my affair with a married woman... (worth reading) how do I move on?)?
I thought that the question was long until I saw the answer.
Hats off to you both.
Tolstoy would be proud.
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you're better off without this skank. you did the right thing!
i feel sad for you.. i do. but reality is.. you knew she was a women of deception from the beginning because you knew she was married and was deceiving her husband with you. i believe the characteristics of a person is declared through their actions. in this case she showed you clearly what she was made of.. at the start. a hard lesson but good on you for finding the courage to bring this to an end. she sounds completely 'heartless'. take care x
you work with her? i don't know how you're gonna get over her if you see her everyday. i know now's really not the time, but i'd consider getting a new job just to avoid the stress of seeing her.
that is, if you're really committed to saying no to this once and for all. and i doubt that you are.
you may have feelings for this woman, but cold hard fact is staring you in the face: she does this with men regularly. this wasn't a one time thing, it's a game.
why is she not wracked with guilt? why isn't she tortured with the choice she has to make between her husband, you, the other guy, and everyone from accounting? because she's a dog, a player. she gets a thrill out of it. she doesn't want to fix it, she just wants to add to the mess.
also buddy, if she texted you ';i want to suck your dick,'; that's kind of a tip-off that she's a major ho. her texting that multiple times is just driving the point home. no one should pity you if you go back to her and inevitably get burnt.
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