Christians I need your advice? Especially if you've maybe been in this type of situation before?

First of all, I grew up going to Christian churches (Baptist, Pentecostal and Non-Denominational) and I was saved at the age of 10. Since then, my life has been an up and down roller coaster of being close to God and then falling away then coming back again, and back and forth and back and forth.





Last year, I separated from my husband and we decided to get a divorce (we had been going to a Baptist church for a long time). Things happened that I couldn't live with anymore (there wasn't any physical abuse included).





Anyways, since I separated from my husband (we are still going through the divorce), I've completely changed. And I'm not sure if I like it?





I've ';been with'; 5 different guys since the separation. I know it's wrong. Please hear me out.





On and off since the separation 9 months ago, I've thought about going back to church but then I end up not doing it because I am enjoying how I am living...or am I?





I have a boyfriend who I have been seeing since the end of February. I love him...or at least I think I do now. Last week we had a falling out but we ended up back together.





Anyways, I've been thinking about church and God in the last week or so.....alot.....and I don't know what to do?





I was living at my boyfriend's house - not anymore - but we are still together of course. Now that I am not living at his house, I can have my space to think about things.





Obviously, I am far away from God. I know He is there and I know He is waiting for me to come back, but I keep knowingly slapping Him in the face.





I feel terrible - but I am wanting to stay with my boyfriend (who is not religious at all whatsoever).





I want to go to church and do right, and at the same time I want to stay with my boyfriend in hopes that he would understand why I want to go back to church.





I haven't talked to Chris (the boyfriend) about this yet.....as I am not sure how he would react because I know he doesn't ';do'; religion.





What are your thoughts? Comments?





I know I should pray about it....I haven't REALLY prayed in a long time.





Besides praying (because I know I need to do that), what would you suggest?





Have any of you been in a similar situation? Even if you weren't going through a divorce....maybe you were apart from God and had a relationship that was not good for you spiritually and you wanted to go back to church but you didn't want to leave the relationship?





I know this relationship could be very unhealthy for me spiritually, ESPECIALLY if I start going back to church and doing right.





I just don't know what to do? The past couple days this has been eating me up.Christians I need your advice? Especially if you've maybe been in this type of situation before?
What was it that Jesus said about his disciples the night he tried to get them to pray with him in Gethsemane ... but they fell asleep instead? ';The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.';





You're going to have to make a serious decision very soon. You won't like the consequences. At first it may taste bitter and it certainly won't give you the warm fuzzies. But it will make all the difference between being blessed in this world, and continuing to be cursed (or at least shooting yourself in the foot). Either chose to please the Lord or choose to please yourself. It's that simple.





I've been where you are. Fell madly in love with a lapsed Catholic a few years ago. It truly was the most amazing relationship I've ever been in. It was also the most disastrous. I would actually pray that the Lord would bless our relationship at the very same time I was breaking many of his laws. How stupid is that?





You can't have it both ways. If you live with unconfessed sin, if you insist on justifying your sinful behavior, the Lord can't help you. He can't even hear you. And just like Job, you've opened yourself up to attacks by satan.





We are supposed to be living victorious lives. Nothing in this world should affect us in negative ways. But these promises only come true if we do the will of God.





Jesus promised to be our good shepherd and come to our rescue whenever we're attacked. But when we wander far away, it takes some effort for the shepherd to find his lost sheep. But he won't ever give up until he finds you and brings you home. So remember, no matter how stupid you act, no matter how callous or careless, he loves you unconditionally. You can't say that about any other man in your life.





Scripture says to resist the devil and he will flee. He won't waste his time with someone strong in their faith. He likes to pick the low hanging fruit. If you've been having problems since you were saved, maybe you'd better first revisit that moment in your life and consider whether you're truly saved or not.





Reciting the sinner's prayer isn't enough. Giving intellectual assent isn't enough. Paul said it best in Romans 10:9-10 ...





';That if you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved.';





God wants to know what's in your heart. Not even your behavior us as important. The question is: Do you love him? And yes you can love him even while you're a sinner, because a sinner you will always be until you get to heaven.





If you're finding it hard to get back into the groove, listen to what the Lord himself says in Jeremiah 29:11-13 ...





';For I know the plans I have for you,'; declares the LORD, ';plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.';





There is it again ... that word ';heart';. Must be really important to God.





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you should remain single until you have sorted your life out


right now you shouldn't be in a relationship becuase your on the rebound..
See if you can mend the relationship with your husband.
The reason you are so torn is because the Holy Spirit is beckoning you to return to your one true love, God. Do you remember the day you meet your Lord and Savior? Think back to the depth of love that surged through your in-tire body. Can you remember how it rose up from deep within your heart and filled your whole body? That love of Christ that ebbed through your whole body. Though salvation will never be taken away from you. If you reject the romance of the Holy Spirit and do not choose to reconcile your relationship with God you can lose the gift God has given you. By your own choice and admission you are ignoring that draw to a certain extent. You are being lead by a hook in your jaw by the hand of Satan. He lives and strives to destroy the family of God. That includes your marriage. If I were a betting woman I would say you never spent on day visiting a Christian marriage counselor. Your marriage sounds a lot like on of my sons marriage. The truth is the greatest problem in ability to fully commit to each other is the inability to fully commit to the Lord. The question I would ask you is this. Are you willing to fight for truth? You have laid down all truth to walk in Satan's lie with a man that does not have Christ in his heart. I believe you are worth so much more then that.
My advise ... There is NOTHING in this world worth loosing your soul over. What you are feeling is conviction from the Holy Spirit to draw you back to God. The Bible teaches us that there IS pleasure in sin, but it is only for a season. I would tell you to give your life completely to God, don't stop there, get to really know God through the Word and prayer, have a relationship with Him. Seek God's will for your life and for who He would have for you.


Mark 8:37 ask a question...What shall a man give in exchange for his soul? God is asking YOU this question... What will your answer be to Him?
Its eating you up because the spirit within you is suffering greatly. You can't know God and be close with him and then knowingly return to sin without repercussions.





I think you went on a binge of lust in order to satiate your hurt. You wanted to try to free yourself from the pain of losing your husband, maybe subconsciously you wanted to get him back for what he has done. Instead of acting out as you did you should have placed your heart in Gods hands. You should have cried the situation out and been blessed to go on.





Many people assume that they know God, and many people go to church their whole lives and think that they will make it into heaven, but truth be told, if you don't know Christ, and if you don't count your life as nothing before him, you are not one of his own. Sin is the transgression of his law of love and protection. He has loved you enough to allow you to find hurt in this way your now living. If you still want to save your life, you will have to repent and turn from your error. If you don't repent you may be in a worse situation than you have ever been in the past.





Those who know God cannot just up and forget Him, remember that their is a unforgivable sin and that is blaspheming the Holy spirit. If that spirit was in you and you decided to choose evil over its love than you have caused yourself a great problem. The fact that your on here asking for help shows that this thing I spoke about hasn't yet occurred, but your getting close.





If this man aint good for you, you have to cut him loose. How about going back to the first man in your life and asking for His love.





I want you to pray this repentance prayer. After ward forgive your husband and seek God both in His words, then by comradery in like minded people. If you really want Gods love seek the Saturday sabbath and begin to live in his law to the full.





';Lord God, we live in an age when sexuality is trivialized and when covenants are broken routinely. We are bombarded with cultural insensitivity for the sacredness of life and what was once considered perverted is now common place and accepted. Please help me increase my sensitivity to the Truth of Your commandments and show me where I need to amend my attitudes and my actions. Forgive me my failures in this area and strengthen me to live a chaste life. Free me from the bondage of my passions and make me the master of my inclinations. Heal me of past hurts and the impact of erroneous instruction and guide my relationships in purity, fidelity and love. Amen.';





I will pray for you my sister, I still believe that you have a good heart, don't be like ancient Israel, you don't want to see The Fathers rath.





Blessings in Christ.
God Bless you sis... I was just talking about situations like this today. You know when we are out in the world, we think we are having such a great time. In reality we are only making mistakes that we will regret later. Doesn't seem like that at the time, but that is the deceit of satan. I have had similar experiences sweetie, thats why I know what I am talking about. You already know the right decision, put God first, He will take care of the rest. This person who does not ';do'; religion is not a good decision, God knows what is best for you, and you know that. I know you have stated that you do not want back with your husband, but I do advise you as a sister in Christ, to pray about that and try to restore the marriage. My prayers are with you...
I personally haven't had a similar situation with respect to mariage/divorce, but I have had similar experences with other sins. You know the path you need to take, and I know sin is fun. That's pretty much all I have. I know you will make a wise decision.
you said you were saved when you were ten,


that's great and it's the reason you are torn now.


once you are saved you are sealed 4 ever.


you know in your heart that you may have to give up some things or people in order to get close with God again and you don't want to do that yet.


you are torn between the world and Christ,but you can't serve two masters,


you have to make up your mind to follow Christ because no matter how much you fight it he is there in your heart 4 ever.





you will make yourself miserable if you continue to fight what you know is right.


why not just let the Lord help you through this and be happy.


you can't be truly happy and live like the world once you have the Holy Spirit in you.


God bless.





BTW,I have not been in this situation (married 28 years by the grace of God)


but I have been where you are as far as not wanting to let go of the world.


but you just have to if you are going to be truly happy.
Are you sure you are really saved? A Christian may stray but will not continue willfully practicing sin such as you are doing. I don鈥檛 know if you are saved or not, but I know if you are God will not let you continue in the way that you are.





Gal 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.





Heb 12:6-8


6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.


7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?


8 But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.
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