How do you move on from someone?

heres my story. I was 21 married to the only man id ever been in a serious relationship with, and had an almost 3 year old daughter with him. Our marriage was failing, after many attempts at trying. I tried to leave but its hard because i have no education no money no job ect. I went about it the wrong way and had an affair on my husband with my cousin. who was cheating on his gf with me as well.








wasnt something we were expecting but we fell in love. I left my husband, and before he could leave his gf she left him, with alot of rent. that he couldnt afford on his own so he asked me to move down. I was going through so much at the time i wasnt thinking straight, i moved in with him and when his gf that had just left him cut off all ties with him he broke down, would cry became depressed wouldnt eat lost weight wouldnt sleep.








I was going through so much on my end but i felt i had to be there for him so i kept my problems inside. I felt bad that he was so upset over his ex. on one hand i was like ';poor guy'; and on the other hand i was like ';wtf im supposed to be ur gf and your crying over someone else'; not over her obviously. after one night of leaving me at home to go hang out with her i broke down. It wasnt only her but he talked to all his serious ex gfs. all the time. he didnt have guy friends only ex gfs. so i told him that i didnt like that he was going to hang out with her even after i asked him not to and he said ';well dont ask me to stop talking to them cuz u know ill say no'; i decided i had to leave. hes really good with his words and i kno would try and convice me not to leave so i left while he was outta town for the weekend. he begged me to come back but i said i needed to think and he said ';no its yes or no'; so i said no not right now. about a week later he got really depressed i think its because hes never had a gf break up with him and he just had 2 do it with in 4 months. i asked him about a week later it he would take me back cuz i missed him and i just needed to think straight, (you have to understand im going through a divorce)





he said no, that he likes being alone he hasnt been for a long time. But its ike a week! after some hurtful exchanges of words, we agreeed to be friends and family lol so i found him a new place to rent and told him that i would lend him money if he didnt have enough and id pay for his DD. but whenever i try to talk to him its like he doesnt give a ****. I still love him and want to be with him, he said before that i gave up on us, and i did and i feel like hes already moved on and gotten over me. and im still here upset. and it makes me think it he was just using me for emotional support, and half the rent because he just doesnt even care now, and after all that im STILL doing for him he cant give me the time of day. I know hes really good at hiding how he feels, but i find that if you are helpful and good he doesnt give a ****, but if your a ***** to him then he pursues you. What should i do? i still have hopes that he will want me back one day. am i just being a fool? help plzHow do you move on from someone?
How are you affording to give him rent money when you didn't even have a job?





I think it's time to put on your big girl panties, and get yourself your own place for you and your daughter. All that moving and turmoil's got to be hard on her. I know how hard it can be to try %26amp; date with a child, but I say leave the losers alone and take a break... If the RIGHT guy approaches YOU then go for it. But quick chasing guys that are just not that into you.How do you move on from someone?
messy, just need to use your brains n get away from the 2 guys. raise the kid with child support,


stop dreaming n getting into messy relationship n get an education. Without education n job, you will be in no control of your life, You will cause problems to yourself n your kid. Stop day dreaming, life is not about this cousin of yours...he obviously like his exgf n it was good they left him. you spend your time on this kind of nonsense, please start building a proper future.
wait. your dating/dated your cousin?


you have no job, but your helping him with his financial issues?


this is so messed up.


just leave him alone, and find a better guy who can take care of you and your child.


geez. grow up
Wow, this is some Jerry Springer stuff.





(1) Get out of both of these relationships.


(2) Get a job to support yourself.


(3) Go after child support


(4) Look into continuing your education.


(5) Don't look back.





You need to do what is right for you and your child. That should be your priority, not making these two losers happy. Focus on YOU and YOUR CHILD.