Feel in love with a complete liar have you experienced this? or anything similar?

I met a girl online im in the uk she was from america.. but anyways i did not intend to fall for her. Or anyone online but i did she felt the same and we started to ''online date'' then we met and all was well she stayed a while and then flew back we were planning to meet again soon BUT here is what i have found out





Her name is not her real name


She has 5 kids she told me she had one


She is 38! she told me she was 28 (she looks it too)


She has been married 18 years and is living with her husband (who is violent and threatens her constantly)





I am absolutely destroyed i have problems trusting people i trusted her with everything i have i have never lied to her or cheated on her even while we was talking online other females did not interest me


at all she makes me happy she confessed everything after i found out and told me i was her ''escape'' and she loved me. The hardest part for me is she was with him while i turned down a few girls to stay faithful to her she is the most amazing woman i have ever met i have offered to send her money to help her get out of that hell she is in it is from a verrry good source i just want her happy with or without me i put so much effort into this relationship i know you lot may think its insane meeting somone online so did i.. i just need advice guys like i said i offerd to give her money to fly her kids over and her so she can be happier it does not even have to be with me i can accept all her faults love the good and bad about her i am devastated i cant sleep aint eaten for a week since i found out i know that seems imature etc but i aint got no appetite i hate myself for loving her and how she has done this to me i trusted her with my life would have :( should i let it go or see if she takes me up on my offer and no she isnt after money i have offerd it to her before to buy her child some more stuff for xmas when she was strugling please help me people im a decent guy i think and not ugly i dont want to live like this to be honest im so confused :( all she said was i hope you get some peace now you know please try and forget me your to good for me yet she wont stop emailing me etc (now shes back there)Feel in love with a complete liar have you experienced this? or anything similar?
Do NOT send her money.





She is dishonest person and if she's willing to turn her back on her husband for some other guy (regardless of what she CLAIMS he is like) than how do you know she won't do that to you? She's already lied about so much to you, and five kids is NO JOKE to take care. You're probably still young and you should start fresh with another woman than dealing with some damsel who got herself into distress, and who may not even leave her husband for you after you send that money.





If you've been around on the internet long, I'm sure you've heard many-a-story about women staying with their abusive boyfriends/spouses or going back to them in spite of the nice guy waiting for them. It's not fairy tale, it's fact. I can tell you want to be appreciated and you want to be the white knight, but after the lies she has fed you and the fool she has played you for, she really doesn't deserve to be saved.





It's pretty apparent she just baited you. Don't take it.Feel in love with a complete liar have you experienced this? or anything similar?
I am so sorry to hear. I have been in a similar situation, honey but not exactly like yours. I am currently in love with a man from the UK, and have been for 7 months. We didn't plan on falling in love. I had never done the online dating thing before. I haven't been with anyone else, and nor has he. But we are no longer together, which kills me. We are waiting until we meet, as I live in Australia.





We are still good friends, but we discovered that we cannot do it online because it is simply to hurtful unless you can be with the one you love in person. I don't think you're a fool, and I don't think that falling for someone online is such a bad thing. You can develop such trust and communication online, because it is really all you have to start with.





As fot this woman, I don't think that lying to you was the right thing to do at all. She should have at least told you that she was in a violent marriage and that she is no longer in love with her husband. You could have at least started off with honesty. But then, would you have taken the time to get to know her if you knew she had so many problems in her life?





Everything happens for a reason, and perhaps she really does love you. She is feeling like you're not good enough perhaps because of the way her husband has treated her, and because she has lied to you yet you've been so good to her. Ask your heart what it feels, and if you love her in return then you must ask yourself is it worth fighting for?





You do sound like a wonderful guy, and you don't deserve to be in so much pain, but everything in life falls in to place. Maybe this happened so that she could get out of there, and her kids would be safe, and so that you two could have a happy life together? I don't think that she is after your money, and I don't think that she aimed to even hurt you.





When you're in a violent relationship (I have been in one myself) you tend to not know what's going through your head half of the time, let alone know what choices are the right ones. My ex made me feel like I wasn't worth happiness, like I couldn't be happy because I wasn't meant to be. But it takes a strong person to help a woman when they are in such a situation.





If this is love that you both feel, and if you believe in it, don't hate yourself at all for loving her. The heart does not know how to stop loving once it has started, no matter the mistakes or hardships. Lies are something that I do not tollorate personally, but the trust can be earned back if you'll allow it to happen.





On the other hand, if she has these children with her husband, you know that he will alway somehow be apart of her life, and apart of theirs. If it is so serious (the violence) then the police must be bought into it. If she will not do it, then someone else must. It is called 'Intervention' and you could be saving her life, or even her children's life.





I know this is a little far fetched, but would you like to speak about it sometime? You may add me to facebook under renayeskye@rocketmail.com or you can add me to msn nay_ellis@hotmail.com. Do not think that I am after any kind of romance, honey because I am not. There are no strangers, just friend's we have not met. Sounds like you could use a good friend, and somoene to talk to.





Keep your strength, you must eat. Even if it's only something small. Perhaps vitamins? You cannot get through this without your strength, honey. Remember, if you would like to speak about it I am more than willing, because that way you can let it all out and I can answer anything you like. Take care and hope to speak to you soon.
I know the shoes your in. Being shown one thing then you find out the other is the real deal. It's nothing you have done mind you. I know this is hard to understand so I will try to keep it short.





The majority of the people I have met on the internet have one thing in common. They lead two lives. One, for themselves and the other ...... for themselves. They with someone but are commonly bored because the passion that sizzled before is fizzled now. They embellish the hardship of their current situation to gain sympathy to hook some innocent person for their own emotional game of need. Whether it's an affair, or just simply playing the field, they are very selfish people. Don't think for one minute that her relationship is not tolerable to the man she is with.... they have 5 kids. She needed an emotional affair for some reason. To lie about her name, age, kids, and marriage is absolute deceit. I guarantee you her husband is the one hurting and being emotionally abused.





Your trust has been broken from the inside out. She painted a facade just to get something from you that she required in her life, without regard to what you need. This is the worst selfishness of all. It's almost this vampire effect that drains every ounce of good from you. I know this. I live this. You need to let the anger run it's coarse so you can move on from this in a healthy way. You need to cut ties with this woman. Change your email address. She's stringing you. Same words, same scenario. Cut your losses now and remove this woman completely from your life. If you try to date others and move on but still talk to her, your in for real trouble when she tries to cut others out of your life because of jealousy. Some people want their cake and eat it too so badly, that others in their live cannot enjoy their own lives if they choose to move on.





Break this off with this person now. You have no Idea but this is the perfect scenario of use and be used. You will not have a future with this woman the way you want no matter how much your told to envision it. Even if she stole your heart, she stole it for the wrong reasons.





Yes this hurts, but it's no different than coming home to find your house robbed, and your personal effects (some sentimental) stolen. Trusting people on the internet is something that cannot be done out of the box. They would have to earn that trust. You want proof of who they are, where they are, and what they are telling you before they even get one ounce of your heart.





Get away from her. She will ruin more than just years of your life. You have every right to be angry. Stop asking they why's and even if you have to make up your own answers, let the answers be ones that you can be genuinely angry at. You are truly being used to the core. Words are words... But actions are the truth. Your 18 Years young. Young enough to be her son. Let this go and move on there is someone better suited for you out there... .who isn't a liar, cheater, and a thief.
oh dear.. what a predicament. 1. you are not crazy, love is more then a physical relationship, it is very possible to fall for someone online. 2. how on earth did she manage to get over to the UK to visit you when she's got 5 kids and a husband that supossedly beats her? 3. offer her the out, but only after you have considered all aspects of what you will be taking on. you didn't mention how old you were, but she is 38, is there a huge age gap? this might not seem important now, but it does have its issues in the future. she has 5 kids, do you know what kind of responsibility that is? it is huge darling, one is tough to take care of. also consider, unless the father is a total dead beat, no court and i mean NO COURT, is going to allow her to move them away from him, he has rights to them also, unless he relinquishes those rights. if you give her an out and she doesn't take it, she is too far gone sweetie. 18 years, is a long time to be with someone who abuses you, she is either not being abused and just isn't happy anymore, or she is now in need of therapy because any woman that deals with that for that long either believes they deserve it or has come to accept it. i don't care what anyone says, my good friends mother has been victim to this for years, longer then 18 years and she a basket case, she accepts it and lives like this, though many have offered her outs! she has broken that trust and it will be years of constant heart ache for you to get it back, and it will not even begin to rebuild itself, while she is still there. you have to remember, she chose to keeps this from you, she did not come to you explain her situation and be honest, she chose to deceive you. you must determine for yourself, what you can deal with and what you are willing to offer. best of luck to you! and i'm sorry for your heart break, it is not easy to over come!