How do you re-ignite your passion for your spouse?

Lately I have been feeling like I am falling out of love with my husband. all we do is sit on seperate couches and watch tv. when it is time for bed i usually have to wake him up off the couch and put him to bed. we go to bed w/o saying a single word to eachother. I feel like we have gotten into a pattern. we hardly speak, and there is no intimacy, or spark in our relationship anymore. I love him and want the spark back. does anyone have any suggestions on what to do. Please keep in mind that we have 4 children that arn't easy to find a babysitter for. Any Suggestions would help. Thanks.How do you re-ignite your passion for your spouse?
There has been a big communication gap between the two.


YOu need to talk. You might be feeling that he should start to talk and he might be feeling you should start.


Sitting out of different couches is just to show animosity.





You should go out on a picnic, for hot tub bath together.. may be cos of the kids u have u r out of the spark life and he is worried about fending them may be he is worried abt thier schooling


If you are not working then you can share the load.








Give him massage, discuss things, be positive..


and think positive and think about the better things together.. ..


there are much more things then just watching tv...





smile alwaysHow do you re-ignite your passion for your spouse?
Do you want to re-ignite your passion for him? Try sitting on the couch with him.....and putting ur head on his shoulder....try walking up behind him and putting ur arms around him.....tell him u love him.......hug him.....kiss him......think about what made u fall in love w/ him to begin w/..........remember to back when u were dating......how u treated him.....and how he treated u.....write him a love letter.......Hope everything works out for ya!!


As far as finding a sitter, u may have to look in the phone book for sitter services or something......or if u attend church, see if a couple of teenagers would like to babysit to earn a little extra cash.....Good luck!!
I don't really know what will help you. We have 3 kids and we love them but sometimes we have to get away from the kids in order to relax enough to pay attention to each other. That is about the only thing that we have found that really helps.
The following are reasons for ennui in a marriage:


1. His body might not be getting enough oxygen--let him eat more leafy vegetables and take one per day vitamins with amino acids.


2. He might be overweight and be short on exercise.


3. Age, cigarettes, alcohol might have slowed certain functions of the body.


4. He could have a sluggish liver--needs detoxing.


5. He might have symptoms of diabetes.


6. One or more could be allowing him/herself to appear unattractive.


6. If none of the above exist, suggest that both of you take out comprehensive life insurance for your children's sake. Most require both of you to take a complete physical. The physical examination would reveal inadequacies. If you know the doctor, discreetly call him before the examination and ask him if he could ask both of you: ';How is your sex life?'; If his health is good, when he asks that question then say to the doctor--I kind of miss the good old days when we were not so busy. Then say: ';Is there anything the both of us can use to stimulate the spark? '; Believe me: there are medicines on the market that rekindle blood flows within two minutes.


Boaz.
hmm 7 children!! Well, start by getting cards that tells your love for him, place that and a single rose in his car or with is clothes, in a drawer, just anywhere he will find it, don't give it to him. Do it often, (he will catch on!!) fix his fav dinner, either before (they wake) or after kids go to bed take a bath or shower together, do his fav ';act'; in bedroom. Making him feel special will make you feel special. Do it more than once, and often. Sounds like you devoted time to children and none for each other. You have to have time together, doesn't mean you have to get a babysitter, its helps but not essential!!! Good luck!!
It's not that hard to find the time sometimes it's hard to MAKE the time..I have 3 kids so I know about the babysitter thing...If you want to get the romance back make an effort. Instead of sitting on separate couches go snuggle with him..ask him if he'd like a back rub and when you get to bed just continue the back rub with a front rub!! Surprise him...make him feel special and I guarantee he'll do things for you that makes your heart beat like it did when you started dating.
Ok. This is tough, simply because marriage is like a job. You have to put in work in order to keep it happy and blissful. It's all about giving as well. If both partners give themselves, then it will work out fine. Also, this is one of the most common concepts, but communication is effective and necessary.





In this case, something's gotta give (no pun intended). If you want the spark back, then be the bigger person. I think he needs the pilot to be re-lit, in my opinion. It'll take work, but you can do it.





First, the obvious. Romantic night.





I usually recommend writing a poem from the heart. http://www.freefonts.com You can go to this site and find some elegant writing.





Of course, candlelit dinner, draw a bath, but the bath has to be candlelit as well. Put on something nice and elegant. Wait for him in the room. (Just to let you know, I've recommended these things before, buy hey! it might work for you). Put a note on the door, something sensual like, I'm waiting for you Big Daddy or something like that. I'm sure you can think of something. Have the room lit with candles, rose petals on the bed (they don't necessarily have to be real). Some massage oils, or baby oil, whatever you prefer. When he comes in, you gotta be stretched on the bed, in a sultry position. Make it look good! I bet you don't have a problem with that. When he comes in get to work with the masasge. While doing that, tell him how much you love him; tell him how much you appreciate him being in your life. Tell him how much of a blessing it is that you two are married. Let him know that you are his Queen and he is your King. Let him know that he is the only one for you and you wouldn't want to be in any other place. You get the picture.


(I usually use these words, simply because it's the truth for most people. You wouldn't be asking for suggestions if you didn't love your husband enough to do it). After speaking, to him just put it on him. Start with a little oral. I don't know how you feel about that, but he's your husband, right? Put it on him the best way you know how.





After that, hold him and let him know how much you enjoyed it. Ask him if he liked it. If he did, let him know that you would love many, many more nights like this.





At this point, it's not about arguing about how you feel; it's about catering to his emotions. It's about taking a positive approach to putting a spark back in your marriage, giving him a not-so-rude awakening. If this works, then you are well on your way to getting your husband back. If not, then we need to get a death certificate for him because he's deceased.





Just to let you know. My wife and I work to keep our marriage blissful. We do things for each other, and we appreciate each other. We laugh, we have disagreements. But, we work the disagreements out. Of course no relationship is perfect, and I wasn't as good a companion as I've grown to be. But she was there for me, and I grew into someone who wants to keep my wife guessing. She doesn't know when the next surprise is coming, and that'll only stop if I run out of ideas (I hope not; I'll be in trouble!!!). It takes work to get to a point like that, and if the Lord permits, your husband will come around and cater to you romantically.





I hope it works out for you.


Good luck





P.S. Forgot about the kids. Find somebody!! Please!!!
that happen to my wife and me,we for stars turn off the tv, if you can find a baby sitter to go out, then you can still have adate in you back yard have a table set with canddles and wine( margaritas work really good for me and my wife) and talk about what you think is happening with you life and how can you guys fix it also try to make it more intresting in bedroom ligth some candles spray perfume if you are the adventurous kind of couple bring some toys or games to the intimacy, you will be shock how much difference a litle back yard date can make and how much can you life improbe by just talking and exresing you concerns and fellings, we husbands want to make or wifes happy and satisfied, so i promess you if you expres you concerns he will be willing to do what it takes to make you happy
Well you can find any kid thats willing to make some money... Go to your moms house on a day when theres going to be alot of people there... let them go to their friends house.. do something... When he comes home from work and asks wheres the kids you say theyre gone, we're all alone. Maybe if he's to tired to do anything just lie next to eavhother cuddle and watch t.v.... theres not a better feeling then cuddling with a loved one..
You can can get it going....do all those little things like when you first met...be sweet...talkative...dress sexy for him...give him a massage...cook his favorite meal....usually what goes around comes around....if you do these things...and more...I think you will get your mans attention...and dont be a nag....men really hate that!
Here are tips:


1)Professional counselling...marry vow


2) Rent a room at 5-stars hotel with nice bath, bed, view every months


3) Shower together


4) Oil Massage him


5) Hot tub
You might try putting the kids to bed early and having his favorite meal in a romantic setting in your dining room. Or asking him to play some games with you instead of watching tv. How about strip poker?
In my opinion, romance is nothing more than playing up the differences between the sexes. Become more feminine and he will automatically become more masculine. Go to the ';Fascinating Womanhood'; website or better yet, read the book. Read ';The Surrendered Wife.'; If you are a Christian, read the Bible and set your home up as God instructs. Read ';The Excellent Wife'; or ';The Politically Incorrect Wife.'; He should be the head of his household, and you should be the heart. There is nothing more romantic. But whether you're a Christian or not, God's model will work to make your marriage better.
Take a nice family vacation, nothing too extensive or too expensive. Just a get away. You'll find breaking out of the routine will give you two more time to focus on the things that you enjoy in each other, rather than just being comfortable in the same room.