How would your future in this marriage be?

please HONEST answers to WOMEN out there.





I just want to know how your future would be in this marriage. There is a woman who breaks up with her longterm boyfriend and marries another guy quickly after. She admits to everyone, and knows herself, that she is completely in love with her ex, but doesnt want to waste her life waiting for him to marry her. She loves the new guy, not like the ex, but he was there and willing to marry her. He treats her well, he loves her, HOWEVER the first 8 months of her marriage, she is pretty unhappy. She tells everyone she made a mistake, should have waited for the other guy, and if she could she would go back and tiem and wait for the other guy and not marry her husband. But, her reality is she is married, and she will TRY to make this marriage work.莽





What do you think will happen as she felt this way, so unhappy so soon? Will it fail? Or eventually will she fall in love with her husband? Ladies, what do you think?????How would your future in this marriage be?
It is possible that she'll see her husband from the other side..one day... and will fall in love...will understand that he is a great guy (if he really is :) )


But from the other hand...she can spend alot of years of her life thinking what her life could be if ...!!


both situations possible...even more then that :) How would your future in this marriage be?
If she's willing to forget the ex and make her marriage work and she loves her husband, it can work. If her husband knows about all of this and is smart, he will move her away to a different city from the one her ex lives in. They have every chance of having a perfectly good marriage and future if she is committed to making it work and he is too.
Sounds to me like she just wanted to be a married woman, and ex bf was not going to marry her anytime soon....so she did what she did out of desperation.Now she is regretting it! I think she will always wonder what it would of been with the ex, and its up to her to decide if she will give her husband the love he (sounds like he deserves).
I am a little confused by the question but it sounds like someone is not thinking things through before they actually act on their feelings. One can not make their self love anyone. Love is is something that happens.





Also it sounds like this person wouldn't be satisfied in any relation because the grass is always greener on the other side. One has to learn to be content and not always be looking out the window. There is plenty to do to make a relationship work but only if you want it to.
when a girl is in love with someone..they'll continue to love them until one of them has let go. This girl is probably straddling the fence and keeping her options open because she enjoys being loved by 2 men. The likelihood of her settling for her marriage now is not likely..because she's not over her ex.
So this takes place in 1950, right? I KNOW a woman of today is not so desperate to marry that she'll marry the first schmuck who comes along. It doesn't even make sense. Marriage isn't about survival anymore, it's about love. (Save for the few dummies out there whose mamas didn't raise them right)
I don't think you can be truly happy with someone you aren't truly in love with. Being married is not easy, the divorce rate is over 50%. I think she'll end up getting divorced and that the guy will be better off without her.
Gee, let me consult my crystal ball! No one knows what the future holds. Anything can happen, but odds are if she feels she made a mistake and is unhappy the marriage won't last. Too bad she was in such a hurry to get married.
i think she needs to grow up marriage is not dating and a women like that needs a sign that says load of trouble and headache she isnt even herself ready for marriage i dont even think she knows what marriage is or what the word is
I think anything is possible. Obviously she got married for the wrong reasons, but as long as the ex stays away and she stays devoted to her marrieage she might actually enjoy it.
it will fail. she will either sleep with her ex or drive her husband away with her discontent. it might take 10 months or 10 years bur it will fail. I think she should try to get it annulled before she gets knocked up and makes it an even messier situation
Yikes, I'd say it's doomed to fail. Should of, would of, could of speaking, she should have resolved her feelings for her ex before marrying this other guy. Those feelings are unresolved and I doubt going away in any time soon. Those feelings will continue to get in the way of ';trying to make her marriage work';. She has to let the other guy go in her mind and heart if she really wants it to work. Also, is her ex giving her any reason to remain in love with him? To me, she needs a clean/free mind without any distractions from the ex.





So are you the longterm boyfriend?
I married my husband fairly quickly when I married we had no-one there only 2 witnesses off the street and we told our family afterward. On that day I felt I had made a massive mistake and knew I shouldn't have done it. The marriage had its problems and if I'm honest I was in love with someone else. That was in 1997 so 30th may this year was are 11th anniversary so if you want to make it work I believe you can.


Hope she sorts out her feelings and isn't too unhappy, good luck x